shans-realm said: That INTPGame is seriously fun. Like... I actually Like it. (okay that sounded weird, don't rewind it twice, just remember the thought that was behind the post okay?) I'm supposed to head to bed but I like it on your blog. ...I'll have to come back here more often! I'm out!

anonymous said: What do ENFJs honestly think of INTPs?

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infjfangirl said: Did you type Colin Morgan an ENFJ just because he's wearing plaid? or are there other aspects that made you type him that way? I was just wondering. I've been a huge fan of his for about 6 years now and he seems extremely introverted to me. Thanks.

mbti-sorted:

No, the plaid thing is mostly an in-joke with enfjpuppettheatre.  Nearly everyone wears plaid at some point so it’s hardly the best indicator to find a picture or an interview with a flannel shirt.  More of a funny trend that keeps popping up.

There are a couple of things about Colin Morgan (that he is basically boy-enfjpuppettheatre being one) but I guess I’ll go with sense of humour.  Introverted INFJ humour tends towards the dark, blurted inappropriately.  Think a well timed punchline by someone with poor delivery.   I’ve found that it passes most people by (the INFJ spoke too quietly), or that people are so shocked to hear the INFJ speaking that it takes a while to process what they’ve said.  Usually the humour comes out of their Ni, so the logic leaps also confound a lot of people. (Personally, I find them hilarious.)

Introverted ENFJs can also be dark, but usually in the way where they’re telling a story in a way that makes the subject matter seem funny when it really isn’t.  They are more inclined to be ridiculous than dark, though.  They’re the sweetest, kindest trolls.  They have firm boundaries in dealing with people, and exposing their dark side is not the go-to - which is the ENFJ making themselves the butt of jokes.  Only with young introverted ENFJs (up to early 20s, at least), you will never see this unless they’re your friend, family or other trusted human.  They don’t deal very well with most authority figures.

Back to Colin Morgan, specifically his behind-the-scenes ridiculousness with Bradley James where he plays up the idiot shtick - basically classic ENFJ (I don’t know if enfjpuppettheatre even remembers this, but she once taped a note with a less pithy version of “Je suis Loser” to my door).  INFJs would not be able to forget they were being filmed enough to let go for most of the stuff they get up to. 

Colin does get nervous in interviews (he gets better at these the older he gets, and the only time he ever really says anything awkward is the first couple of interviews where he can’t stop saying “brilliant” in answer to every question) but he also smoothly never gives up anything spoilery and also keeps decent eye contact, which would be nearly impossible for a nervous INFJ.  At a convention, he was managing a room full of fans and fellow actors excellently, neatly slipping around potentially awkward shipping questions.  INFJs can have problems with questions like “What’s your favourite (fill in the blank)?” where they need a lot of time to think through their options and get annoyed that they have to choose between seemingly unimportant things (and will try to weasel out of giving an answer).  Like, I’m not saying he’s completely comfortable and outgoing around crowds of people, but they’re not exactly tripping him up or making him panic either.

Hiiiiiiii. There are lots of puppet theatre scenarios & lovely messages in my inbox! I know it’s been very self-help around here lately. I do very much love when you send me asks for either/both… I’ve just been slightly swamped with off-tumblr things. I’ll be back to regularly scheduled self-deprecating puppet humour later in the week. Woo!

xx enfjpuppettheatre & Alfred the bear

p.s. In the meantime, Alfred will tap dance for your entertainment.

doandroidsdreamofmareep said: Do you have any advice for ENFJs who blame themselves for the results of their previous relationships? I'm trying to help one out, but I don't have enough experience with romantic relationships to even know where to begin.

Well, without knowing the specifics of your ENFJ’s relationship…

1. Dancing your face off at gay clubs to house remixes of Adele with your gay BFFs in the early morning is amazingly cathartic. That was a turning point for me, once.

2. We do assign more blame to ourselves in post-production… I attribute this to my sketchy memory. Remind your ENFJ of the other party’s dick moves, and although they’ll probably try to defend the other party, they might also be like “OH YEAH, THAT WAS GARBAGE. I’M WELL OUT OF THAT.”

3. Give them time. ENFJs hold on to feelings for a LONG while. Partly because we’re vindicated when we let someone in and it doesn’t work out. And partly, like, the second we have something special, we’re imagining 100 000 futures with that person. In any relationship that’s over, it sucks that you won’t get to have those future good times. But don’t expect it to go away overnight… or even over months.

4. Get them excited about new shiny future plans, and being a better ENFJ. Whether this involves relationships or career ambitions, we like to have new goals and new dreams! Make a bucket list (short-term and long-term) and help them attack a few things on there :)

Hope that’s #helpful. Let me know how it goes!

chocolatequeennk said: Your answer on ENFJ careers was really helpful. I especially appreciated points 1, 5, and 10--those are things most profiles tend to ignore, focusing instead of the helping people angle. But the need for a creative outlet, our ability to pull various strands into one piece, and the need for more than a desk job are all critical to career happiness. Point 5 is even more important if your creative outlet is a hobby, because working 40 hrs at a desk leaves you too drained to be creative later.

Thx! Yeah, it’s hard to learn that career satisfaction doesn’t necessarily come from what your job choice is, so much as how you do it. Because suddenly you’re responsible for your own happiness. WHICH IS SCARY.

Anonymous said: I just read korraismybaby's question, what do you think about a relationship between an INFJ male and an ENFJ female?

Ok, I was being a bit facetious. I mean, there are lots of kinds of love besides romantic love. I’ve talked about ENFJs and INFPs before, which is why I was being a bit flippant (and also, too many hours at a desk, sorry). NFs are really tuned-into each other in a way that is hard to find with, say, SFs or STs. It’s super unique, and that can be a good thing, or a bad thing. I love other NFs, but to me they are more like family, or reallllllly good friends.There are probably lots of NF-NF relationships that work. Maybe?

Sally over at mbti-sorted can probably confirm Y/N. SALLY?!

jayperior said: Hey! ENFJ here and I'm a new follower. Just wanted to say that this blog is absolutely hilarious and most things about the ENFJ/INTP interactions are so spot on that it makes me laugh! My ex-gf is an INTP so reading some of this stuff has been a hilarious nostalgia trip. Keep up the fun work!

Thank you, kind Sir!

Here everyone, have some gratuitous ENFJ + INTP on camera.

korraismybaby said: love between ENFJ boy and INFP girl

CODE RED!!!!!!!!11 SHUT IT DOWN!!!!!!!!!1111

umidkmaybee said: ENFJ careers? Thanks!!

enfj-uk:

enfjpuppettheatre:

ENFJs & careers is a topic that’s near and dear to my heart - and is something I’ve struggled with a lot. I wish the internet had been able to give me a clear pathway to happiness, but apparently that’s not a thing. ENFJs really need job satisfaction to feel happy and fulfilled, so it’s something that (as a 20-something) is still in development for me. I’ve seen other ENFJs struggle with “WHAT DIRECTION?!” too. Here are some things that I’ve learned so far, in my 15+ years earning a paycheck.

1. Choose something creative. This doesn’t mean “BE AN ACTOR” but, like, choose something where part of your day is allotted to work where you get to exercise your creativity.

2. Find a boss that you don’t just respect, but also really like. This will go a LONG WAY to job satisfaction. Sometimes the coworkers you dislike the most in the beginning will turn out to be your favourites, but where your boss is concerned, trust your gut. Get out if you feel like you’re not inspired/not being challenged/being overworked.

3. Set boundaries. ENFJs will go above and beyond, and have trouble saying no - this isn’t healthy. Set up a clear division between work and home, even if you work from home. A lot of NFs work in the arts & non-profits… this can be brutal, but you have to find the tipping point at which your no longer compensated for the work you’re putting in. Move-on, or find a way to get the work done that doesn’t involve burning yourself out.

4. Work with the people. Kids, seniors, everyone. It’ll be good for you.

5. Don’t get a 40/week desk job. It might be good for you short-term, but in the long-term, it will feel like the world is passing you by.

6. DREAM BIG. You might have stretches of slow grind-  those will teach you a lot, too. But never stop dreaming big.

7. Be kind to people. You’ll regret it if you’re not.

8. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE. Right now I have my full-time job #1, my part-time job #2, and my hobby which has recently turned into part-time job #3 (but atm love #1). Do lots of things that you like, and one day you might get paid to do the thing you like best ALL THE TIME.

9. Use your ENFJ sense of humour to get through the bad days. No job is perfect. And people can be HORRIBLE.

10. Did you know that ENFJ and ENTJs have “super highways" in our brains? Our brains light up like a Christmas tree when we’re making connections and pulling info from lots of different places to create something new. Project Management A+.

I hope that helps! Do other ENFJs have feedback?

I agree wholeheartedly. I find that when I work for a company, I have to invest myself fully or not at all. I wonder if this all or nothing attitude is a common type trait? If so, I would hazard a guess that it’s due to a mixture of our need to organise/harmony/balance and how much of ourselves we invest in the betterment of our worlds and tribes.

The only thing I would add is to try and remain focused and prioritise. Speaking from my own experience, the enthusiastic ENFJ can spread themselves thinly in an effort to accomplish all those ambitions we’re brimming with. Take each goal one at a time and remember to breath but never give up working towards what you love.

umidkmaybee said: ENFJ careers? Thanks!!

ENFJs & careers is a topic that’s near and dear to my heart - and is something I’ve struggled with a lot. I wish the internet had been able to give me a clear pathway to happiness, but apparently that’s not a thing. ENFJs really need job satisfaction to feel happy and fulfilled, so it’s something that (as a 20-something) is still in development for me. I’ve seen other ENFJs struggle with “WHAT DIRECTION?!” too. Here are some things that I’ve learned so far, in my 15+ years earning a paycheck.

1. Choose something creative. This doesn’t mean “BE AN ACTOR” but, like, choose something where part of your day is allotted to work where you get to exercise your creativity.

2. Find a boss that you don’t just respect, but also really like. This will go a LONG WAY to job satisfaction. Sometimes the coworkers you dislike the most in the beginning will turn out to be your favourites, but where your boss is concerned, trust your gut. Get out if you feel like you’re not inspired/not being challenged/being overworked.

3. Set boundaries. ENFJs will go above and beyond, and have trouble saying no - this isn’t healthy. Set up a clear division between work and home, even if you work from home. A lot of NFs work in the arts & non-profits… this can be brutal, but you have to find the tipping point at which your no longer compensated for the work you’re putting in. Move-on, or find a way to get the work done that doesn’t involve burning yourself out.

4. Work with the people. Kids, seniors, everyone. It’ll be good for you.

5. Don’t get a 40/week desk job. It might be good for you short-term, but in the long-term, it will feel like the world is passing you by.

6. DREAM BIG. You might have stretches of slow grind-  those will teach you a lot, too. But never stop dreaming big.

7. Be kind to people. You’ll regret it if you’re not.

8. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE. Right now I have my full-time job #1, my part-time job #2, and my hobby which has recently turned into part-time job #3 (but atm love #1). Do lots of things that you like, and one day you might get paid to do the thing you like best ALL THE TIME.

9. Use your ENFJ sense of humour to get through the bad days. No job is perfect. And people can be HORRIBLE.

10. Did you know that ENFJ and ENTJs have “super highways" in our brains? Our brains light up like a Christmas tree when we’re making connections and pulling info from lots of different places to create something new. Project Management A+.

I hope that helps! Do other ENFJs have feedback?

Anonymous said: any help/advice for an ENFJ going to a new school with low confidence? :(

Sure! ENFJs make friends through projects & competency based interactions. Sooo - that thing that you REALLY like doing, find a club/class/group for it, and thus the people that also really like that thing.  TEAMS!

Also- don’t worry about what other people think of you. If you’re being yourself, and doing what makes YOU happy, everything will be OK.

(But protip: when in doubt, baked goods always win people over…)

the24-hourpianist said: Can you explain the sexual attraction between an intp and enfj through scenario?

Scenario: on the park bench.
INTP: Your dorky anecdotes have stopped making sense.
ENFJ: HM? SORRY? YOUR EYES ARE SO PRETTY.

Scenario: in the library.
INTP: Pls continue being in my personal space. Not effective for work, but-
ENFJ: HM? SORRY? YOU’RE SMART. YOUR EYES ARE SO PRETTY.
INTP: Be more in my personal space?

Scenario: getting ice cream.
ENFJ: Hold this pls.
*ENFJ’s ice cream falls onto INTP, because two clumsy people*
ENFJ, INTP: *intense not-staring, some licking of casualty ice cream*

Scenario: life.
INTP: You’re actually, like, a really good person.
ENFJ:
INTP: Are you listening to anything I’m saying.
ENFJ: … MAYBE?!

Anonymous said: Should an entp take ap history or geography? and ap biology or physics ?

etoapia:

enfjpuppettheatre:

1. DEAR HEAVENS, I am not a guidance counselor!

2.The ENTPs I know have all been good at math (and physics) but have lots of diverse interests and skills. I know ENTP engineers, architects, mathematicians and artsy-types who are all excellent in their chosen fields. The question is what would this ENTP in question like to do after high-school, and which course will be most beneficial in consideration of that goal (and equal parts, which ones would they rather take, and who the teachers might be!).

3.So…. make a pros and cons list. It’s okay if a pro is “I CAN SLEEP IF I TAKE THIS ONE AND NOT THE OTHER”.  It’s a legit reason.* And weight your points so that “I really like this teacher and not the other” gets more consideration than “I don’t like maps”.

* I dropped grade 12 physics part-way through the year to practice more harp. So what do I know. My Russian Physics Teacher almost refused to sign the form to let me out of his class. “Vat eez zee ‘arp????”

Hi anon! I’m (ENTP) going to chime in. 

If you want to go into the STEM field, biology or physics would both work. However, if you don’t want to go into STEM, bio would be a better option because it can replace your general education requirement for science. Physics really isn’t a gen ed requirement for non-STEM fields. ENTPs seem to universally hate gen eds so the more you can knock out, the better.  

I personally took APUSH. AP Geography isn’t as particularly useful as APUSH in my opinion. Most colleges will accept APUSH as a gen ed requirement for social studies. Geography? Not so much. That, and I’m horrible at geography. You might like the challenge of doing something you’re horrible at though. 

I’m going to assume you’re a HS junior. I would suggest taking APUSH and AP Bio. Those classes both get a lot of weight in most high schools so you shouldn’t be stuck with horrible teachers and they fulfill gen ed requirements in most colleges. You can AP Geography and AP Physics your senior year (that’s when most people take the more random AP Classes anyhow). 

Reblogging, so hopefully it gets seen! The words AP clearly mean more to this helpful person than they do to me. EDUCATION ACRONYMS… not so much a big thing in my country. What is a GRE.

Anonymous said: This is like beyond random but could you do an INTJ mom and an ENFP dad giving their ENFJ kid life advice? lol thanks

Scenario A: the united front

ENFP Dad: But will it make you happy? It’s important that you’re happy.
INTJ Mom: Your father makes a good point.

Scenario B: international waters

ENFJ:
But Dad said…
INTJ Mom:
ENFJ, I love your father very much, and I’m going to say something that up until now I thought was an unspoken, shared agreement between the two of us for the entirety of your existence.
ENFJ: That he’s basically a 12 year old and doesn’t live in the real world?
INTJ Mom: Oh good, you ARE my child after all.

ENFJ: But Mom says that I should consider the practicality…
ENFP Dad: ENFJ, I love your mom very much. But something she doesn’t understand is that sometimes things are more worthwhile when they’re messy.
ENFJ: Oh. Yeah, that’s true.
ENFP Dad: You’ve got good instincts, and I’ll always be here for you. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

ENFJ: Y’ALL ARE UNHELPFUL  :(